If I'm doing my job effectively, then you are learning the tools you need to handle life's hurdles.
I don't think you need to be in marriage counseling long-term in order to get some real solutions. In fact, my goal for each session isn't t discuss each new problem that has developed over the last week. Real talk: more problems will come up in the future, so you can expect us to focus on HOW to deal with the problems instead of EACH individual problem.
You can expect that I stand by my overall goal - no B.S. I'm going to give you solutions and I'm going to tell it to you like it is. If something is off balance, I'll tell you my thoughts instead of keeping them hidden. I'll ask you to do the same. I often say my opinion and then touch base with clients. No BS. If I say something you know is whack, let me know. I think we all need that honesty to build a stronger foundation. Along with this, I'm genuinely a positive person and you can expect that positive energy in our sessions if you need a pick-me-up.
You can expect that I won't spend time letting you fight. You already do that at home so why pay me to sit there? You can expect me to intervene if a disagreement starts to go too far.
You can expect that I won't take a side or point fingers. Your relationship is my client, so my goal is to make your relationship happier. Your needs are important, too, so it is a fine balance between your needs, your partner's needs, and the relationship.
You can also expect some homework. The whole point of coming here is to learn how to take these tools and apply them to real life. Expect me to ask you to do something in between sessions. If you want this to be short-term, then we need to put in the had work. I'm here to hit the ground running with you, so let's get to it!
Thank you for stopping by The Couples Workshop! I'm honored to help clients communicate their needs effectively within 8-10 weeks on average - instead of 15-20 weeks (national average according to the APA).