When people are concerned about their decreasing intimacy, they often blame the infamous “honeymoon phase”. While there is some truth to this phase, many couples live a satisfying sexual relationship – regardless of what ‘phase’ their relationship is in. In this post, you’ll learn more about what research tells us about intimacy.
The “Honeymoon Phase”
To start, let’s talk about the “honeymoon phase”. I’ve heard people define this “phase” as lasting from the start of the relationship to varying end times – time frames from as little as 6 months to as many as 7 years. This phase is a label people place on their relationship when times are “easy”, “fun”, and you feel that “spark”. In my world, we call this phase “limerence”.
Regardless of the name, this phase is exciting for most couples because they are getting to know one another, are filled with longing, and usually experience less conflict. You are likely still in this phase when you see nothing but good when observing the person you are dating. This phase is also filled with many of those feel-good hormone releases including oxytocin and phenylethylamine (PEA). PEA is a natural form of amphetamine that our bodies produce and has even been called “the molecule of love”.
With this light-hearted, fun-spirited, hormone-release phase of love, you can see why this phase feels so good.
The End Of The Honeymoon
People label the shift away from the “honeymoon phase” as a negative for their relationship. They see more conflict and less sex, so it must be “bad”. In reality, limerence is the first phase of love. It’s a wonderful phase where the person just feels right! While this phase is wonderful, there are also two other phases for love: phase two is building trust, and phase three is commitment. These phases are also necessary for a fulfilling, lifelong relationship.
Keeping An Intimate Connection
But, that doesn’t mean we need to lose our intimate connection.
Here are some tips for addressing intimacy when you have moved past the honeymoon phase:
- Spend quality time together
- Purchase a special gift (regardless of price) for your partner
- Acknowledge their hard work
- Be open, honest, and warm with one another
- Talk about everyday experiences
- Create a shared goal
- Explore common interests
- Celebrate your partner’s successes
- Lean on one another during times of stress
- Give one another grace, instead of holding grudges, when in a challenge
As you’ll see, the above suggestions are not about how to have more sex – but instead, target a fuller, deeper experience of intimacy.
Research tells us when couples report feeling loved, appreciated, and admired, they also report higher levels of passion and sex in the relationship. If you want to feel the two later phases of love while not losing the honeymoon phase, then target showing appreciation for one another!
In Summary
The honeymoon phase can end, but your intimacy does not have to. Instead, be inspired to strengthen intimacy throughout your relationship by communicating your fondness and admiration for one another.
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