How well do you know your partner? We ask exploratory questions when we start dating and yet it almost stops when we become more committed. We lose connection on the day-to-day tasks if we do not continue to strengthen that exploration. Here are some ideas to strengthen your friendship foundation.
When you have a solid relationship foundation, you can build conflict management skills, explore intimacy, and create future goals more effectively.
Rituals of Connection
Rituals of connection are an amazing way to keep that connection growing – and not just romantically! Rituals of connection are specific behaviors we provide to our partner on a regular (daily, weekly) occurrence. While there are many different forms of rituals to connect, I am going to focus here on how you leave for the day and how you arrive back home. I am choosing these two rituals because they typically apply to many couples.
What do you do when you leave for the day? Consider implementing a parting ritual to help connect and also inform your partner about your day.
Morning rituals of connection with a focus on friendship:
- Have a morning coffee together.
- Working out together.
- Talk about what makes you excited for the day.
- Talk about what makes you stressed about the day.
- Share what you want to learn or another short-term goal.
- Other than work, discuss your other errands/responsibilities such as a meeting with your training or going to get groceries.
- Discuss some upcoming fun weekend plans.
- Talk about what the kids have been up to.
- Get ready for the day at the same time – ironing clothes while your partner does their hair.
When you arrive back home, consider implementing a return gesture to make an intentional mental shift from work to home.
Evening rituals of connection with a focus on friendship:
- Acknowledging your partner when you walk in the door.
- Talking about your day over dinner or a glass of wine.
- Going on an evening walk.
- Let your partner talk about the latest office gossip.
- Share your big win of the day.
- Start planning a vacation.
- Discuss something funny that happened today or a memory from your past.
- Go for a night drive.
- Check-in on their long-term goals.
As you see by this list, it isn’t anything super romantic. While rituals of connection can be romantic, they do not have to be (for example, I often talk about rituals such as a hug and kiss every day). Instead, I hope this blog inspires you to invest time in your friendship foundation. Friends often talk about work, vacation plans, and the weather… add these conversations into your relationship, too. When you have a solid relationship foundation, you can build conflict management skills, and intimacy, and create future goals more effectively.
Bonus tip: If you have not felt connected in a long time, then it might be challenging to get this going again. Consider creating a ritual around a similar value such as going to the park with your kids or going to dinner with a close friend. Having others join you is a great way to help grow your comfort. The big thing here: make sure you both know the intent behind this behavior so you know the goal is to be connected!
The Power Is Your Intent
It is more about intentionally making that time to connect over the actual behavior you choose. Even if one partner prefers one ritual over the other, it’s not a problem – the power is in the intent. Think about the last time you received a gift from a friend that was nice but also kind of “meh”. It’s not just about the gift but the act of them giving you the gift. It is the same thing with rituals. Your intent in building that friendship is the real power here. Of course, try to find a ritual that you both enjoy; however, just the exploration should start giving you some of that benefit.
Join me as I explore the essential elements of building and maintaining strong friendships in my latest blog post, “The Friendship Foundation”.
This post is more than just a guide; it’s a deep dive into the heart of what makes friendships last and how they can be strengthened over time.
In “The Friendship Foundation,” I delve into the importance of continuous exploration and connection, even in the most committed of relationships. I share strategies and personal experiences on maintaining and nurturing the bond of friendship that often forms the basis of our most cherished relationships. The focus is on creating and sustaining rituals of connection, understanding the nuances of daily interactions, and the significant impact they have on our bonds.
You’ll discover how simple, everyday actions can profoundly enrich your relationships. From sharing morning coffee rituals to evening walks, each piece of advice is designed to foster deeper understanding, empathy, and authenticity – the essential ingredients for a lasting friendship.
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