Couples Therapy Blogs

Written by: Joseph Vander Linde, CLTC for The Couples Workshop in Fort Collins readers. Hundreds of couples have sat in my office and shared their long-term goals and aspirations with me. They say things like, “We want to save a million dollars.” “She wants to retire at 65”.  Or, “we could live comfortably on $50,000”, […]

Instructions: For the following items, please describe, in your perception, how things are currently handled and how you would like them to be handled. What is your philosophy about who should do what? Who generally does what (you, your partner, or fairly shared as you’d like)? Are things shared as you would like them to

Right now I am seeing higher levels of stress from many people. I’ll be focusing at-home tools on relaxation techniques this month in hopes of assisting in your stress relief. This week: let’s focus on a breathing technique. You often hear breathing from your diaphragm as a suggested way to relax, but how do you

Right now I am seeing higher levels of stress from many people. I’ll be focusing at-home tools on relaxation techniques this month in hopes of assisting in your stress relief. This week: let’s focus on a breathing technique. You often hear diaphragmic breathing as a suggested way to relax, but how do you know if

Stress has been particularly high for some of my clients. As I have talked to friends, family, and acquaintances they have also discussed experiencing high levels of stress lately. Let’s work on some techniques that can help you wind down after a long day. This exercise is titled: Feeling Heavy To complete this relaxation technique

When I’m talking about forcing your body to react a certain way, I’m talking about utilizing your physiology to your advantage! A lot of relaxation techniques can be used when you are already out of the thick of the stress and need help to start relaxing. That can be a big jump: to go from

Fighting with your partner at home can be brutal. You are mad at each other, and yet your responsibilities are still there. You still have dinner ready for the kids, you still have to work, and you still have to go to bed together. Fights will always happen; however, we can work to make conflict

Whether you are dating someone new or going on your regular date nights (like I recommend – good job!), it is important to be mindful of what goes into a successful date. Regardless of the length of your relationship, important date night etiquette can be the key to a positive date! This is a protocol

I get a question similar to this often: why doesn’t my partner understand me? Both partners come in after an argument and talk about not being understood, not being heard, and feeling alone. You are feeling lonely in these moments, so it is important to find a middle ground here. The key to this is

For this post, I reached out to my network to ask them about what they do about the political differences in their relationship. We have some awesome advice from them and I will also be providing my feedback. I asked them all the same open-ended questions to see where they would take the conversation. I